Personal Development

Tony Robbins: Leadership in Crisis video

This video, about reaction at a Tony Robbins event about the terrorist attacks on 9/11, I’m sure, has made it around the internet because it’s pretty old. And I’ve actually seen this seminar tape and was really struck by it, but today I came across a clip of it, and I wanted to share it here.

As a person who leads events, I wonder what it would be like to navigate through a landscape like that. Tony did an incredible job at utilizing the situation, something that obviously came from a lot of experience being on stage and being able to think on his feet.

What would you have done in Tony’s situation, here?

As you answer that question, remember that the map is not the territory. The muslim man is not “wrong” for his beliefs and I applaud him for being able to say that freely. Dogmatism just isn’t enough fun. How do we reconcile the opinions?

To me that’s a challenge worth looking into.

Personal Development

Stay Focused. Stay Strong. Stay Passionate.

“Risin’ up, back on the street
Did my time, took my chances
Went the distance, now I’m back on my feet
Just a man and his will to survive.

So many times, it happens too fast
You change your passion for glory
Don’t lose your grip on the dreams of the past
You must fight just to keep them alive”

– Survivor, “Eye of the Tiger”

We must purposefully create discomfort with our current situation, in order to grow beyond our limits.

I am constantly pushing myself to do things, as Kanye West says, BETTER, FASTER, HARDER, STRONGER.

You must do this as well. For the second you take things for granted is the second that you are slipping, moving back into being a somnambulist to the mass media and popular culture and to your excuses for not achieving the success you deserve.

Here is my question for you:

What will we do, to maintain our level of PASSION, our FOCUS on our goals, and our INSATIABLE DESIRE to achieve them?

It is said that people who are young are the drivers of all that is good.

Felix Dennis, in his book “How to Get Rich,” calls the stamina of the young and their unjaded perspective as their most valuable assets. Experience? Capital? These are largely irrelevant for the young people today. We must have the desire and the will to achieve.

And if we are going to climb to the top of whatever ladder or mountain we choose to set our sights on, our focus and intensity must be at a thousand percent.

Are you with me? What can we do to achieve this?

Personal Development

Bursting through your previous limitations

From what I have seen, most people do personal development or self-improvement only when it’s convenient. They do it only when they’re “on the money” and then when they aren’t feeling like it, they slip back into their own habits.

“Adults seem to want to learn everything at once. This approach will not work.” – Milton H. Erickson

It is said that we all teach what we most need to learn, and for this one, I need to learn it too. It’s a continual lesson for me. My guess is it’s a lesson for all of you too – can you stick to your goals when you are tired, cold, hungry,  and sick?

I think to myself, what would some elite military guy like a Navy SEAL do in this situation? They don’t know failure. They literally don’t consider stopping. They just keep going until they’re dead.

When I was doing martial arts hardcore, this is one of the lessons I learned – you don’t stop until it’s time to stop. Maybe you’re doing pushups and you can’t do another pushup – that’s fine but you need to keep working at that next one until you get it.

If you’re like most people, you don’t stop to think about why you are here and what you’re doing. You just go through your life, a mysterious combination of motivations and loyalties and drives and desires.

We’re all here on this planet (RIP Pluto) and we all have these things we want to achieve. What are your top 3 goals? For most people it’s a health goal, a wealth goal, and a relationships goal. In order to achieve these goals we have to do certain things and we have to do them consistently.

What stops us all from having our goals? Chiefly among them is our desire for consistency and comfort within ourselves; if we change then we might become inconsistent and we certainly will experience some (temporary) discomfort.

As a hypnotist I’m taught that the reason people don’t stick to their goals longterm is that they rely on “willpower” which is kind of like mental adrenaline – it gives you a burst in the moment but doesn’t last over time. To truly change our goals, I’m taught, we need to change the underlying subconscious programming that is there.

Is this accurate? I don’t know. It’s certainly just a model and all models have their limitations. I’m beginning to doubt it. Because this “habit change” process is a HUGE part of solving people’s problems. If we can get people to change a habit, then we are very much on the way to success.

Thoughts? I know I haven’t spelled out the answer to this one, but I’m still figuring it out myself. Maybe that’s the best place to be in the cycle 😉

Personal Development

Everyone wants to get out of the rain.

Look down, there’s some change in your pocket!
I’m listening to a song called “Liquid Sovereignty” by Eyedea and Abilities. I suggest that you listen to it and understand the message.

The chorus is:

“Everyone wants to get out of the rain
Wants to be free, wants to see no more pain
We’re guaranteed that the seasons will change
‘Till then, I’m keeping sunshine on my brain”
It’s almost metaphorical.

Our space in time here — our lives are made up of polarities. The polarity between the successful, motivated, grounded, and energized individual who drives life to the edge, and the person who never seems to get anything done despite a backdrop of tremendous opportunity.
These are the polarities between confidence and self-loathing; between acceptance and denial… and the sharp contrast between striving to be successful at everything, and automatically being successful at nothing, through stagnation and apathetic thought.

Where do -you- want to go?

And as you carry that around with you,
I wonder how quickly you could find yourself able to

Really decide RIGHT NOW whether you want to be average or extraordinary.

It is this type of decision that will shape your unconscious into the person that you are destined to be, so that you get all of the results and the rewards, and the intensity of life that you’ve been waiting for starts immediately.
I am painting you a clear picture so that you know that if you’re “sort of on the line kind of not really there,” you’re not gonna get it. Be pro-active and have your life turn out the way you want it to!
I know that some of you have clocks on the wall, things that tell time. Some of these clocks have these little second hands and if you’re like most people, YOU CAN IMAGINE NOW that with every tick of that clock,
that’s another second in which you’ve spent time contemplating what to do instead of taking massive action. Before you know it, that’ll be YET ANOTHER minute that you have probably spent wishing and hoping and wanting but not -getting- …
What do you truly want?

Lots of motivated people have had this feeling that ANY day now there will suddenly be a big explosion of creativity and genius and insight… And it’s true that eventually you will have that time where you decide to be bigger, better, greater
But how many seconds or minutes, days or… YEARS will pass by before you realize that it’s time NOW?

Keep that clock in mind and do what it takes. You’ve but one life to give … to yourself, and to everyone who will be benefited from enjoying this new and improved you.
Take care of all of both of you,

Both the polarity who knows you can succeed,

And the energy to get there.

Hypnosis and NLP Personal Development

Stepping into a new you

Sometimes people get in the glum habit of thinking that there are limited resources. They think there’s not enough money, not enough time, not enough love or good fortune to go around, not enough “pieces of the pie,” so to speak

However if you step back, you can remind yourself that at one point there weren’t any of these resources – time, energy, money, … and look at how much there is now! Limitations are a myth. The only limitation is our own current psychology, and what we can feel really excited about right now is that we’ve all been blessed with a set of tools that enable you to shift your psychology rapidly and to enjoy the process that gets you what you really want in life.

Along these lines, there’s an NLP exercise called the New Behavior Generator that I want to share with you all.

This exercise gives you the ability to make a resource out of thin air. If you’re not sure how you would do something, all you need is to find someone that is already doing what you want to do successfully, and you’re all set! Just follow these instructions and you’ll have that state locked in where you can use it everyday if you want to.

Here are the steps:

  1. Think back to a situation where you felt as if you were running out of resources
  2. Physically step a few steps back… Breathe in and disassociate, and look at the you in that situation.
  3. Determine what you need in that situation, and what resources would help you out the most.
  4. When you’ve found the resource, select a model person that has that resource, and bring in that person into that space, and watch them doing the action themselves.
  5. Then send that person away and watch yourself doing that action. Make sure that it works for you!
  6. Once you have watched yourself deal with the situation specifically, just as your model would, step into the situation yourself and go thru it in a new and helpful way.
  7. Imagine yourself in the future doing these things successfully and having a new understanding.

With this exercise, I have had great fun in stepping into all sorts of people I respect for their different abilities and resources. To me it’s as simple as putting someone in a circle, stepping into that person, and feeling those resources being imparted. As I step back, I take the resources with me. It’s really that simple.

How would you like to be a kid again and to have a truly powerful imagination? Do a favor and take a couple seconds out of your day to become something totally different.

Who would you like to model? Maybe it is a master hypnotist that you truly respect. Or maybe you have someone in mind for their compassion, strength, composure, or determination. Be REAL about this stuff. Ramp up your physiology. Imagine what it would be like to be that person and go thruout the day being an influence to everyone around them. What would it be like to order a cup of coffee?

Practice this constantly. So far today I’ve stepped into many of the greats of the past and present. Wow! I feel the changes flooding thru my veins.