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Hypnosis Helps Americans Cope With Recession Stress

It seems like we are constantly being bombarded in the news that America is in fact “in a recession,” and that means that we all have to feel bad and mourn about how many jobs are being cut.

In fact, people seem to believe that they themselves must take this recession personally, even if they have a secure job or business, and even if the rest of their life is going great. Weird, huh?

When it rains, it pours.

From the positive living camp, Norman Vincent Peale wrote that “problems are a sign of life.” And if we dig deep enough into our philosophies, isn’t it true that most of this money-stuff is on the surface?

And here’s a question – if we COULD let it go, … should we?

I think we should. Emotionally, at least. To release the emotions so that the flow of life can return.

And one of the great ways that some people are letting it go, and giving themselves permission to do so, is through hypnosis.

Either self-hypnosis through a set of steps, listening to recordings,

Or being hypnotized by a professional. (Hey, did you know that I do phone sessions? 😉

By the way, here is a great self-hypnosis method that you can use, to calm your nerves…

Stand shoulder-width apart… put a little flex in your knees… Inhale very deeply for about 5-8 seconds….

Now begin to exhale slowly, close your eyes, and focus on your heart beat.

And in the moment, notice everything about the external environment… what temperature is the air?

Then, let all of that go, and focus exclusively on your internal body. What do your organs feel like inside of you? What is happening to the hair on your skin? How are your eyes relaxing inside your eyes?

Keep your throat, your jaw muscles, your facial muscles, your eyes, and your forehead completely relaxed…

And breathe for a couple minutes for 10 seconds in, 10 seconds out.

Then open your eyes…. SMILE….

Look right up at the ceiling … shake your shoulders out a bit, and wiggle your body. Get some blood circulating, and feel your body ready to take on whatever comes along.

This can have some great effects.

Have fun.

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Can you have too many whiteboards?

I now have… count ’em… SIX white boards mounted in my house.

Two big 3’x4′ white boards, one medium one, and 3 small ones.

Frankly, I’m running out of things to write on them.

I have a white board for “to get” things (groceries, etc)… I have a white board for my action items, I have a white board for planning, I have a white board for calendar dates…

The two big ones have various things on them at different times.

It’s a regular activity for me to erase them regularly – generally I’ll brainstorm a LOT, and after the board gets filled, I’ll either write or type the contents of the whiteboard, or I’ll take a picture of any diagrams that I can then have on my computer.

In addition, I have right now about 4-5 different notepads on my desk, along with a wire-mesh container holding about 20 pencils and pens, scissors and highlighters. I also have a container for paperclips.

More than that, I have 2 different files (an expandable file, and a hangable folder file), and a comprehensive set of binders.

I have 5 different “desk trays” in two different rooms.

To say I have put in a lot of time into being organized is an understatement.

The thing is, I really like being organized. It improves my productivity a LOT. But, I am not by personality an organized type of person. I’m just trying really hard 🙂

What have you done in your life to become more organized?

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Hypnotic trends in your social circle

There’s something funny about the phenomenon of rapport. Once we have rapport, we tend to want to follow what other people are doing, and they in turn follow us. The stronger the rapport, the greater the degree of the effect.

With me, I have a strong group of friends. And my friends tend to pick up trends together.

A couple years ago, I was getting heavy into multiple blog-marketing, because a friend of mine had made a lot of money in that arena. It never panned out long term for me, but I invested a lot of time and energy into it. I bought lots of different types of programs to run the stuff automatically, I tried out several different web hosts and types of hosting.

I also have a lot of friends who are hypnotists. As a result, once in a while I’ll be studying hypnosis constantly for a week just because that’s what we’re all doing at that time. We’ll get together and that’s all we talk about.

Right now for me, the trend is the stock market. It’s this cool new thing. We are all getting brokerage accounts, talking about banking and the latest news all day, and we do stock picks and find out what is going up and what is going down. We talk about getting overseas accounts, and storing our money in Euros instead of Dollars, and lots of technical mumbo jumbo.

Of course this is particularly fun because I just took out about 10 grand from my shares in AIG. For a couple weekends I was really sweating because I wasn’t sure if they were going to go bankrupt or not. Everytime I sweat though, I remember that Warren Buffet said: “When others are fearful, get greedy.”

I could go through my entire life and talk about how I picked up different hobbies or activities one way or another, through the influence of rapport. But the content – all of the particulars and specifics – is not important. The process is what you have to pay attention to. How do we become addicted to these things?

And I realized that it’s like a game for me. It’s this whole social thing, where all of your close friends are doing this thing, and so you end up doing the same thing.

This is why I have emphasized so many times the importance of spending your time around powerful and successful people. Not only do they give you good ideas, but they “wear off” on you. Just like you can’t walk into a printing factory without getting ink all over you, you can’t walk out of a conversation with these people without being changed for the better.

But the problem comes when you have a good friend that you’ve had for a while, but they’re just not motivated, they’re just not “there” with you. You really only have two choices – to bring them up to your level, or to sink down to theirs. Inaction only produces the second choice.

And so I’ve spent lots of time getting my friends excited about things, because I want to keep them around me.

What trends have -you- noticed in your social circle? What’s the newest thing to do, and what is the range or spread of the types of things that change? With me and my friends, it’s usually some sort of activity. What we’re spending our time doing.

With other groups of friends it’s clothes, or the newest TV show. It’s a new sex technique shared by girls in Cosmo, or a new urban word of the day that everybody tries to use.

It’s very interesting to me how we adopt and use these patterns. It’s very hypnotic. It happens unconsciously, and it’s every where. From the way you walk down the street, to the way you either make or don’t make eye contact, from the types of people you feel close to, and the various ways that you categorize where you are (how do you know you are where you are right now?).

These things affect all of us. So your homework assignment is to go look for the ways you are being influenced by your friends and by rapport.

You’ll find out some amazing things.

Thanks,

Taylor

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Quick thought

Zen masters often have students who train with them for years. And after 10 years of training, a student may not be able to do what the zen master can do, but they can at least see what they are doing and recognize it. This is a core principle that has been true in my life. As I get more accomplished in all areas, what amazes me the most is not what I can come up with, but what I can observe other people doing. I have these passionate moments where I recognize what someone is saying, and the structure of it intrigues me, and generates a certain reverence for that line of thought.

As I’ve been reading Josh Waitzkin’s book (“The Art of Learning”), I can closely relate to how he feels in certain chess positions, observing the champions, and pioneering his own style. I personally have only glimpsed that in chess, but I have started playing the game again only because he is so congruent when he writes about it, and he taps into a part of my experience that I have felt is only available to “intelligent” people.

The irony is that our patterns, or our habitual ways of processing information, will inevitably shape everything in our lives for good and bad. These programs can cause us to become warm and loving or harsh and coldblooded. But these same patterns have a beautiful complexity to them. That when we stop and analyze them, they provide countless hours of entertainment, just as it is in a tough chess position, or developing an idea to change the world.

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The most important five steps when you set goals

Think about your three biggest goals.

With pretty good odds, I can tell you that there is a good chance that you have:

– A health goal
– A wealth goal
– A relationships goal

True, or true?

This is a clue. In order to be successful, we must make sure that we are well rounded.

How do we do that?

With all the hustle and bustle of life, how do we sit down and make things happen?

It starts with making sure that you are managing your life effectively.

Ask yourself these questions about your goals/outcomes:

1) How well have -you- been tracking with your goals?

2) Do you use a goal-setting or life management system?

2a) Is it effective?

3) What have you done recently that takes you in the direction of your goals?

4) How do you know that you will get your goal?

5) How will you feel when you’ve got it?

And so on. The importance is that you keep track of where you are on your goals, and you keep moving towards them and you know in what ways you’re moving towards them. If you don’t know all of this off the top of your head, you need to spend more time planning out your goals.

One of the first things that we do in our coaching program that we are doing (phone coaching nationwide, and in-person coaching in the DC area), is that we draw out your optimal outcomes. We adjust them to make sure they fit right, and then we put them back in person using a process known as Background Belief Installation.

If you’re interested in our coaching program, send me a message.

What feedback do you have on your goals? What questions do you have, and what processes have you come up with, to enable you to achieve them faster?

Personal Development is the act of starting from where you are, zeroing the playing field to the best of your ability, mapping out the landscape, and starting out on a powerful vector and slowly process designing and getting the life that you want.

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Time Boxing by pokerwithoutcards

Time boxing is the act of sectioning off a particular amount of time for an activity.

One way it can be used is to stop procrastination and move into action.

In other words if you tell yourself, “I am only going to spend 30 minutes on this project,” you might spend more than 30, but the promise that you have permission from yourself to quit after that time is very reassuring. It gets you to take action.

The other way it can be used is to control how your working. I forgot what the “law” is called, but essentially there’s a doctrine that states that a task inflates itself to the amount of time allocated to it.

That means if you act as if you have unlimited time for a particular task, you will spend a long time on details that perhaps does not impact the final result that much if at all.

If, instead, you allocate a certain amount of time, you will do ONLY those things that are necessary to move it into completion.

Example:

“I want to clean up my house”

Problems: Too big chunk, unspecified, looks/sounds/feels like a big task.

Solutions:

a) Chunk down. “I will clean off this desk, that desk, and this other thing.”

GET SPECIFIC. Get as specific as you need to be. If it appears overwhelming, keep chunking down and do a few steps at a time.

You can solve any goal by simply taking it a few steps at a time. The biggest challenge in anything that you have to do is to GET STARTED and take action. Make a plan, and then LAUNCH immediately.

b) Time box. “I will spend only an hour today cleaning up the kitchen. If I get the kitchen clean before then, I get to stop. If I’m still working in the kitchen after an hour has passed, I get to stop.”

By setting up rules for how you will do it, you actually DO something towards the task, and you relieve yourself from any guilt.

Use these things in your life, and you will be successful.

Taking Action by Exiled

Hey Everyone,

When most people think of personal development we think about self help tapes, Tony Robbins, motivational speakers and so on. The reason is most of those things mentioned all have something to do with the field of personal development.

We spend thousands of dollars and invest our time into changing our lives for the better. We got to these events and reads the books learning new techniques, new ways of thinking and taking notice of how we are feeling.

The Personal Development field is one of the biggest money makers in the world. Millions of tapes, books and speakers are providing their message. The truth is most of these people are successful and have followed certain blueprints that lead to them being successful.

Other times the person is only successful because he is a really good con artist, but hey the con artist was smart enough to think of the idea in the first place.

Okay, back to the meat of this post.

We go to these events and we get pumped up and ready for massive change. In other cases, we ready the books and listen to the tapes and reflect upon our lives while listening. Once we finish we know things are going to be different. We know our lives can never be the same.

Then when we fast forward a few months into the future these same people are in the same place they were before or worst. Why? Why spend the amount of time, energy and money for these products yet some people never even finish the tape set. Why?

Why would people spend so much money and time and then not change anything about their lives. These people have received great information, but how come most people never become successful or become rich?

Is it because this information doesn’t work or is it because you got ripped off. One could say these things but I tend to think thats not the problem at all. Remember, knowledge and information isn’t power. Someone once said Knowledge and information is nothing more then unorganized information.

For some reason people tend to think all you have to do is gain some new information and success is bound. Well thinking positive may be better than thinking negative, but if you just sit on your butt and hope you may never see success.

So what is the difference between those who make the information work and those who don’t. Its really quite simple and its how I’ve done pretty well for myself. Its nothing more than two simple words, which are “Taking Action”.

I know some of you are like I already know that, well if you do how come your not where you want to be. Gaining information is just the first step, the second step is to act upon this information and take action. You must take action every single day to reach your goals.

Some people tend to think you must make massive amounts of action and that’s not the case. Just a little step each day in the right direction and you will get there. Some people tend to take action for a few days and then stop when life starts to get hard.

The real winners are the ones who take small steps in the right direction with each step getting you closure and closure. Some people who want to get in better shape try to make it a habit to get on the treadmill everyday for 30 min when they never stepped on one in their life.

So instead of doing 30 min every day why not just get on for 5 to 10 min and get your body and mind used to the idea.

In realitiy, nothing can get done without taking action. It all starts with a idea, but without action a idea is nothing more then just a idea. So gather information, know what you want and just take action.

Now this doesn’t mean everything will be perfect in your life, but how can you get down the road if you don’t leave the house. Personally it is the people who move toward what they want and take action that seem to be the ones who can say this self improvement tape worked for me or Tony Robbins changed my life.

We can’t blame them for supplying the information and then when it doesn’t work blame them because we didn’t take action. So once again TAKE ACTION and move toward change. Once again this is just my opinion and we all know there are many ways that lead to the same road.

REPLY by pokerwithoutcards:

It took me probably 20 times hearing my good friends say this to me before I got it. They kept saying, “Take action, bro, you need to stop thinking and do things.”

And now I understand the value of it. Most people only contemplate and they do a bunch of future predicting about how it’s going to turn out.

Felix Dennis says in his book “How to Get Rich” (he is a multi-millionaire) that ideas hardly even matter if the follow-through is good. In other words you could have a shitty idea with great follow-through and make it work, but..

EVEN THE BEST IDEA IN THE WORLD WILL NOT WORK IF YOU DON’T FOLLOW THROUGH ON IT.

Oscar and I had an idea for a coaching program. Are we at the “ideal” place in our business? Of course not – we always want to be bigger and better.

Are we MUCH farther ahead and better off for taking action and LAUNCHING? Yes. And we’ve had a TON of fun in the process and we’ve met a lot of great people.

If you read, listen to, or watch enough self improvement stuff, you will hear this point over and over again. You MUST take action and -do- something.

Yes, it won’t be perfect at first. It’s just bound to happen.

Now I can stand up in front of a room and, with true authority tell people what works and what doesn’t. Theory-based knowledge is great for mental stimulation, but useless in the real world.

Thanks for the post, Josh. Great topic.

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