Hypnosis and NLP

Finding the meaning of life

A short story for you guys, from Timothy Ferris’s “The Four-Hour Work Week“:

An American business man took a vacation to a small coastal Mexican village on doctor’s orders. Unable to sleep after an urgent phone call from the office the first morning, he walked out to the pier to clear his head. A small boat with just one fisherman had docked, and inside the boar were several large yellowfin tuna. The American complimented the Mexican on the quality of the fish.

“How long did it take you to catch them?” the American asked.

“Only a little while,” the Mexican replied in surprisingly good English.

“Why don’t you stay out longer and “I have enough to support my family and give a few to friends,” the Mexican said as he unloaded them into a basket.

“But… What do you do with the rest of your time?”

The Mexican looked up and smiled. “I sleep late, fish a little, play with my children, take a siesta with my wife, Julia, and stroll into the village each evening, where I sip wine and play guitar with my amigos. I have a full and busy life, senor.”

The American laughed and stood tall. “Sir, I’m a Harvard M.B.A. and can help you. You should spend more time fishing , and with the proceeds, buy a bigger boat. In no time, you bould buy several boats with the increased haul. Eventually, you would have a fleet of fishing boats.”

He continued, “Instead of selling your catch to a middleman, you would sell directly to the consumers, eventually opening your own cannery. You would control the product, processing, the distribution. You would need to leave this small coastal fishing village, of course, and move to Mexico City, then to Los Angeles, and eventually New York City, where you could run your expanding enterprise with proper management.”

The Mexican fisherman asked, “But senor, how long will all this take?”

To which the American replied, “15-20 years. 25 tops.”

“But what then, senor?”

The American laughed and said, “That’s the best part. When the time is right, you would announce an IPO and sell your company stock to the public and become very rich. You would make millions.”

“Millions, senor? Then what?”

“Then you would retire and move to a small coastal fisihing village, where you would sleep late, fish a little play with your kids, take a siesta with your wife, and stroll to the village in the evenings where you could sip wine and play your guitar with your amigos…”

Hypnosis and NLP

Ideas Into Reality: Manifesting Free Stuff

Hey everybody,

Along with my passion for hypnosis, another thing I have been getting into lately is Affiliate Marketing. I really love business and working for myself (I don’t have a dayjob) so this is another outlet for me to be able to combine my interests and make things happen in a real way.

Now recently I have realized what I really love about the affiliate marketing space, and it’s that they have High Expectations for results. When you listen to interviews that are done of successful affiliate marketers, they don’t start off by telling you how they made their first few dollars. Instead they tell how they went from zero to $10,000 a month, and what it took to get there. 10k a month is not even a big amount in that industry. You’re still just a regular player at that stage.

And they always measure their income in PER MONTH, or PER DAY. Most people who I talk to, if I asked them what their income is, they’d tell me, “I earn $xx,xxx per year”  and it’s usually a fixed amount and they can’t get any more than that… but the high-level affiliate marketers think in terms of the month, the week, or the day. That’s the level at which their business is growing, because they might double their income in the next month and that is perfectly normal for them.

It seems like new guys are emerging all the time who have gotten past the initial hurdles and who, only a couple months into it, are earning a 6-figure or 7-figure income. One of my friends talks about how he went from being miles-high in debt to earning 100k in just under a year. And he works for himself, at home.

So as you can imagine, I’m very inspired by all of this, and I’ve been taking a lot of action to make it happen for myself because I really enjoy almost everything about the industry. In fact after my seminar in Hawaii from Oct 16th-20th, the next thing is I’m going up to New York in November (the 4th-6th) for Ad:Tech if anyone wants to meet up. It’s an affiliate marketing convention which is going to be a lot of fun.

Anyway, getting to the point, I just read a great post by a guy who set his mind on a goal and ended up manifesting a Mac Book Pro out of it by winning an affiliate contest. THIS IS VERY IMPORTANT because most of the people I talk to about Law of Attraction think that it’s all about “positive thinking” and just wishing something will happen and then it does.  But that’s not it.  What he emphasizes in this post is that you have to Take Massive Action to get where you want to be, and that’s what I really love about it.

This makes me feel all warm and fuzzy inside, because as an entrepreneur, I know very well the connection between IDEAS being transformed into REALITY.  Not too long ago, Josh Houghton and myself decided we were going to start releasing hypnosis products. We started out with just an idea, but slowly and surely we put it together and made it happen. Now we have a GREAT $300 course that we’re both very proud of, because we took action and we did what was necessary to manifest this idea into the world.

Does that sound like something you would like to do?  Read this post, by Paul Piotrowski:

How I Manifested A Mac Book Pro For Free


Can you have too many whiteboards?

I now have… count ’em… SIX white boards mounted in my house.

Two big 3’x4′ white boards, one medium one, and 3 small ones.

Frankly, I’m running out of things to write on them.

I have a white board for “to get” things (groceries, etc)… I have a white board for my action items, I have a white board for planning, I have a white board for calendar dates…

The two big ones have various things on them at different times.

It’s a regular activity for me to erase them regularly – generally I’ll brainstorm a LOT, and after the board gets filled, I’ll either write or type the contents of the whiteboard, or I’ll take a picture of any diagrams that I can then have on my computer.

In addition, I have right now about 4-5 different notepads on my desk, along with a wire-mesh container holding about 20 pencils and pens, scissors and highlighters. I also have a container for paperclips.

More than that, I have 2 different files (an expandable file, and a hangable folder file), and a comprehensive set of binders.

I have 5 different “desk trays” in two different rooms.

To say I have put in a lot of time into being organized is an understatement.

The thing is, I really like being organized. It improves my productivity a LOT. But, I am not by personality an organized type of person. I’m just trying really hard 🙂

What have you done in your life to become more organized?

Hypnosis and NLP

The most important five steps when you set goals

Think about your three biggest goals.

With pretty good odds, I can tell you that there is a good chance that you have:

– A health goal
– A wealth goal
– A relationships goal

True, or true?

This is a clue. In order to be successful, we must make sure that we are well rounded.

How do we do that?

With all the hustle and bustle of life, how do we sit down and make things happen?

It starts with making sure that you are managing your life effectively.

Ask yourself these questions about your goals/outcomes:

1) How well have -you- been tracking with your goals?

2) Do you use a goal-setting or life management system?

2a) Is it effective?

3) What have you done recently that takes you in the direction of your goals?

4) How do you know that you will get your goal?

5) How will you feel when you’ve got it?

And so on. The importance is that you keep track of where you are on your goals, and you keep moving towards them and you know in what ways you’re moving towards them. If you don’t know all of this off the top of your head, you need to spend more time planning out your goals.

One of the first things that we do in our coaching program that we are doing (phone coaching nationwide, and in-person coaching in the DC area), is that we draw out your optimal outcomes. We adjust them to make sure they fit right, and then we put them back in person using a process known as Background Belief Installation.

If you’re interested in our coaching program, send me a message.

What feedback do you have on your goals? What questions do you have, and what processes have you come up with, to enable you to achieve them faster?

Personal Development is the act of starting from where you are, zeroing the playing field to the best of your ability, mapping out the landscape, and starting out on a powerful vector and slowly process designing and getting the life that you want.

Hypnosis and NLP Personal Development Psychology

Posts from the TrancedOUT forum

Time Boxing by pokerwithoutcards

Time boxing is the act of sectioning off a particular amount of time for an activity.

One way it can be used is to stop procrastination and move into action.

In other words if you tell yourself, “I am only going to spend 30 minutes on this project,” you might spend more than 30, but the promise that you have permission from yourself to quit after that time is very reassuring. It gets you to take action.

The other way it can be used is to control how your working. I forgot what the “law” is called, but essentially there’s a doctrine that states that a task inflates itself to the amount of time allocated to it.

That means if you act as if you have unlimited time for a particular task, you will spend a long time on details that perhaps does not impact the final result that much if at all.

If, instead, you allocate a certain amount of time, you will do ONLY those things that are necessary to move it into completion.


I want to clean up my house

Problems: Too big chunk, unspecified, looks/sounds/feels like a big task.


a) Chunk down. “I will clean off this desk, that desk, and this other thing.”

GET SPECIFIC. Get as specific as you need to be. If it appears overwhelming, keep chunking down and do a few steps at a time.

You can solve any goal by simply taking it a few steps at a time. The biggest challenge in anything that you have to do is to GET STARTED and take action. Make a plan, and then LAUNCH immediately.

b) Time box. “I will spend only an hour today cleaning up the kitchen. If I get the kitchen clean before then, I get to stop. If I’m still working in the kitchen after an hour has passed, I get to stop.”

By setting up rules for how you will do it, you actually DO something towards the task, and you relieve yourself from any guilt.

Use these things in your life, and you will be successful.

Taking Action by Exiled

Hey Everyone,

When most people think of personal development we think about self help tapes, Tony Robbins, motivational speakers and so on. The reason is most of those things mentioned all have something to do with the field of personal development.

We spend thousands of dollars and invest our time into changing our lives for the better. We got to these events and reads the books learning new techniques, new ways of thinking and taking notice of how we are feeling.

The Personal Development field is one of the biggest money makers in the world. Millions of tapes, books and speakers are providing their message. The truth is most of these people are successful and have followed certain blueprints that lead to them being successful.

Other times the person is only successful because he is a really good con artist, but hey the con artist was smart enough to think of the idea in the first place.

Okay, back to the meat of this post.

We go to these events and we get pumped up and ready for massive change. In other cases, we ready the books and listen to the tapes and reflect upon our lives while listening. Once we finish we know things are going to be different. We know our lives can never be the same.

Then when we fast forward a few months into the future these same people are in the same place they were before or worst. Why? Why spend the amount of time, energy and money for these products yet some people never even finish the tape set. Why?

Why would people spend so much money and time and then not change anything about their lives. These people have received great information, but how come most people never become successful or become rich?

Is it because this information doesn’t work or is it because you got ripped off. One could say these things but I tend to think thats not the problem at all. Remember, knowledge and information isn’t power. Someone once said Knowledge and information is nothing more then unorganized information.

For some reason people tend to think all you have to do is gain some new information and success is bound. Well thinking positive may be better than thinking negative, but if you just sit on your butt and hope you may never see success.

So what is the difference between those who make the information work and those who don’t. Its really quite simple and its how I’ve done pretty well for myself. Its nothing more than two simple words, which are “Taking Action”.

I know some of you are like I already know that, well if you do how come your not where you want to be. Gaining information is just the first step, the second step is to act upon this information and take action. You must take action every single day to reach your goals.

Some people tend to think you must make massive amounts of action and that’s not the case. Just a little step each day in the right direction and you will get there. Some people tend to take action for a few days and then stop when life starts to get hard.

The real winners are the ones who take small steps in the right direction with each step getting you closure and closure. Some people who want to get in better shape try to make it a habit to get on the treadmill everyday for 30 min when they never stepped on one in their life.

So instead of doing 30 min every day why not just get on for 5 to 10 min and get your body and mind used to the idea.

In realitiy, nothing can get done without taking action. It all starts with a idea, but without action a idea is nothing more then just a idea. So gather information, know what you want and just take action.

Now this doesn’t mean everything will be perfect in your life, but how can you get down the road if you don’t leave the house. Personally it is the people who move toward what they want and take action that seem to be the ones who can say this self improvement tape worked for me or Tony Robbins changed my life.

We can’t blame them for supplying the information and then when it doesn’t work blame them because we didn’t take action. So once again TAKE ACTION and move toward change. Once again this is just my opinion and we all know there are many ways that lead to the same road.

REPLY by pokerwithoutcards:

It took me probably 20 times hearing my good friends say this to me before I got it. They kept saying, “Take action, bro, you need to stop thinking and do things.”

And now I understand the value of it. Most people only contemplate and they do a bunch of future predicting about how it’s going to turn out.

Felix Dennis says in his book “How to Get Rich” (he is a multi-millionaire) that ideas hardly even matter if the follow-through is good. In other words you could have a shitty idea with great follow-through and make it work, but..


Oscar and I had an idea for a coaching program. Are we at the “ideal” place in our business? Of course not – we always want to be bigger and better.

Are we MUCH farther ahead and better off for taking action and LAUNCHING? Yes. And we’ve had a TON of fun in the process and we’ve met a lot of great people.

If you read, listen to, or watch enough self improvement stuff, you will hear this point over and over again. You MUST take action and -do- something.

Yes, it won’t be perfect at first. It’s just bound to happen.

Now I can stand up in front of a room and, with true authority tell people what works and what doesn’t. Theory-based knowledge is great for mental stimulation, but useless in the real world.

Thanks for the post, Josh. Great topic.

Personal Development

Bursting through your previous limitations

From what I have seen, most people do personal development or self-improvement only when it’s convenient. They do it only when they’re “on the money” and then when they aren’t feeling like it, they slip back into their own habits.

“Adults seem to want to learn everything at once. This approach will not work.” – Milton H. Erickson

It is said that we all teach what we most need to learn, and for this one, I need to learn it too. It’s a continual lesson for me. My guess is it’s a lesson for all of you too – can you stick to your goals when you are tired, cold, hungry,  and sick?

I think to myself, what would some elite military guy like a Navy SEAL do in this situation? They don’t know failure. They literally don’t consider stopping. They just keep going until they’re dead.

When I was doing martial arts hardcore, this is one of the lessons I learned – you don’t stop until it’s time to stop. Maybe you’re doing pushups and you can’t do another pushup – that’s fine but you need to keep working at that next one until you get it.

If you’re like most people, you don’t stop to think about why you are here and what you’re doing. You just go through your life, a mysterious combination of motivations and loyalties and drives and desires.

We’re all here on this planet (RIP Pluto) and we all have these things we want to achieve. What are your top 3 goals? For most people it’s a health goal, a wealth goal, and a relationships goal. In order to achieve these goals we have to do certain things and we have to do them consistently.

What stops us all from having our goals? Chiefly among them is our desire for consistency and comfort within ourselves; if we change then we might become inconsistent and we certainly will experience some (temporary) discomfort.

As a hypnotist I’m taught that the reason people don’t stick to their goals longterm is that they rely on “willpower” which is kind of like mental adrenaline – it gives you a burst in the moment but doesn’t last over time. To truly change our goals, I’m taught, we need to change the underlying subconscious programming that is there.

Is this accurate? I don’t know. It’s certainly just a model and all models have their limitations. I’m beginning to doubt it. Because this “habit change” process is a HUGE part of solving people’s problems. If we can get people to change a habit, then we are very much on the way to success.

Thoughts? I know I haven’t spelled out the answer to this one, but I’m still figuring it out myself. Maybe that’s the best place to be in the cycle 😉